As England prepares to enter a second period of lockdown, many couples are facing increasing pressure on their relationship.
Those relationships may have survived the first lockdown - due to the novelty and the chance to take a welcome break from the demands of everyday life – but this time, the added financial pressures and uncertainty about the future, may prove too much.
Life feels like it’s on hold at the moment – it’s difficult to make any plans and to have something to look forward to.
With no end in sight, it seems there could be further lockdowns in future to curb the rate of infection until a vaccine is found and rolled out. Even if we do come out of this lockdown on the 2nd December, we’ll be going back into the tiered system. Life won’t be returning to normal for the foreseeable future.
The effect of lockdown on relationships
With that in mind, many couples are reassessing their relationship and whether they want to stay together.
Lockdown has exacerbated any issues already there in the relationship - which until now have been tolerated - but being together 24 x 7 is proving too much.
Covid itself has also been the cause of many arguments where couples have different attitudes to risk. Research by Kings’s College London shows that more than half the population say they’ve felt angry with loved ones because of their behaviour in relation to Covid.
Couples who have previously spent little time together in their daily lives are being forced to spend all their time together - and it’s proving to be the final straw. They’re realising that actually they don’t like their partner very much after all.
Traditional pattern of divorce
Traditionally there is always a surge in the number of divorce applications in September after couples have spent time on holiday together - often in a make or break effort to save their relationship.
Then there’s a larger peak in early January - after the stresses of the Christmas holidays - spending too much time together, compounded by financial pressures.
Before lockdown, the latest divorce figures released by the Ministry of Justice, to the 12 months ended March 20, showed a 23% increase in the number of divorces finalised, compared to the previous year. This trend shows a reversal in the 25-year decline in the divorce rate. You can only think that Covid is going to increase these figures further.
The Citizens Advice bureau has recently reported a 25% increase in views of its divorce page compared to the same time last year.
Tips to help your relationship survive lockdown
With all this added pressure on relationships, here are some tips to try and make lockdown together more bearable.
If you find that none of the above helps, and you decide you want to end your relationship - before you make a final decision - take some time to question whether it’s really the relationship you’re done with or if it’s the situation you’re finding yourself in.
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