Can you forgive and forget
Forgiveness means different things to different people. But generally, it involves a conscious decision to let go of any resentment and thoughts of revenge.
It doesn’t mean forgetting the hurt or harm done to you by another person – possibly your ex - or reconciling with them.
It doesn’t mean that you’re letting them get away with something or glossing over it.
Forgiveness is for you – not the other person. It can bring peace of mind and freedom from anger and other negative emotions. If you hold on to it, you’re punishing yourself as well as the other person.
It enables you to take back your power and recognise the pain you suffered - without letting it define you. It allows you to heal and move on with your life.
It can be especially hard to forgive someone you love and trust who’s hurt you - but I think it’s essential to be able to get closure and move forward.
4 reasons to forgive and move on:
If you’re struggling to forgive someone try doing some journaling. It can be really therapeutic to get everything down on paper and out of your head. Write freely without thinking about it.
Try writing a letter to the person telling them everything you forgive them for. You don’t have to send it to them. You could even burn it to represent the ‘letting go’ of all the anger and resentment.
Instead of dwelling on the past, focus your time on creating an amazing future for yourself. Start a bucket list of everything you've always wanted to do but haven't got round to and start ticking items off that list.
Forgiveness is a process and may take some time, but in doing so, you’ll be taking back your power and control from the other person. You have to make the decision to forgive. Holding onto all those negative emotions doesn’t serve you at all. Instead you’ll be making the choice to move on with your life.
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