In 2014 the Daily Mail surveyed 2000 divorced men and women and a shocking 50% of them said they regretted their decision to divorce. More recent studies confirm that the number is between 32% and 50% and that the people interviewed wished they'd worked harder at their marriage and stayed married.
Coronavirus has been the breaking point for many relationships. If there were issues before lockdown, these have only been exacerbated by being together 24/7. Many couples have decided that it’s time to end their relationship and move on.
Ending a long-term relationship is a traumatic and stressful event in anyone’s life, second only to the death of a loved one. There are many repercussions that extend wider than just the couple themselves – children, grandparents and friends are all impacted by it.
If you are thinking about ending your relationship, my advice would be this - make sure that you are completely confident in your decision and have no doubts before you put the wheels in motion.
Here are 5 ways to help you make sure you’re leaving with no regrets:
- Are they significant issues?
- Has it been an issue for a long time or is it a new issue?
- Can they be fixed?
- Do you want to fix them?
It can also be useful to imagine life without your partner – what emotions does that bring up for you? If you decide to stay, it must be because you want the relationship to work rather than being scared of being on your own. There are a lot of things you can do to get over that fear.
Unfortunately, you may still love your partner but sometimes that isn’t enough. The relationship just doesn’t work and it’s making you both unhappy.
There’s research now that shows staying for the kids isn’t always the best thing to do. They are much better at picking up on tensions than we realise and you’re their role models for relationships. It can be healthier for them to see their parents apart, but happy, communicating and co-operating with each other, rather than arguing, not speaking and resentful of each other.
If you are thinking about leaving your relationship, I really hope this has given you some useful tips to think about.
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